Younique Partners with Coty; A Billion Dollar Beauty Company

Hey folks,

I know I have been kind of absent for a little while doing some soul searching and making life changes, so I will explain that in another post to come. I just HAD to come on here and tell you all about some CRAZY thing that just happened…

Because HOLY CRAP!!

I just got an email that blew my mind. Ladies, are you familiar with brands like GUCCI, 15940715_364436983926266_1717680269005004226_nCalvin Klein, OPI, Marc Jacobs, and Cover Girl? (More in the image to the right –>)Well, all of these well-known brands are owned by one of the worlds LARGEST beauty companies – Coty – a company that has now entered into a partnership with the luxury cosmetics company that you all know I work for; Younique.

Check out a few quotes from the official press release: “Coty is one of the world’s largest beauty companies with approximately $9 billion in revenue”; “Coty is the global leader in fragrance, a strong number two in professional salon hair color & styling, and number three in color cosmetics.”

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Okay, so what does this MEAN? This essentially means that Younique has been recognized for its amazing products, value that we as presenters deliver, and the mission statement behind the entire company to UPLIFT, EMPOWER, and VALIDATE women by one of the largest corporations to the entire beauty industry around the world. This is INSANE.

This partnership holds SO much promise and is SUPER exciting for me.

  1. It means that we will be able to bring out new products more quickly
  2. Replenish supplies of existing products more quickly to reduce the chance of back orders for our awesome customers, AND
  3. We will be able to expand into new territories even faster with the help of our new backer.

If you enjoy makeup even a little bit, come and talk to me! NOW is the time to get involved with this company so that you can get settled in before all of the craziness begins when the new product and market launches start happening. If makeup isn’t your thing, that’s cool! Please share this so that it reaches more people that may actually be searching for something this awesome to fall in their lap. Every share helps my business SO much

Eeep! I can’t wait to see what 2017 brings.
(Please let it include great shimmery highlighters :P)

xoxo

Jess

Younique March NEW Product Launch!

You may or may not know this, but Younique actually releases a line of new products two times a year. We released new products back in September after the announcement at the 2015 convention in Chicago. November after this launch was our BIGGEST month ever for sales, and it was all because of the amazing new products. Well, get ready for some more! Typically Younique has been known primarily for cosmetics with a small degree of skin care products, and we are very happy to report that this is about to change.

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Without further ado, it is with great excitement that I announce the products to become available tomorrow, March 1st 2016!

Younique Beachfront Self-Tanning Spray

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*Mist on a gorgeous natural-looking gradual tan

*Vegan friendly and not tested on animals

*Directions: spritz onto clean, exfoliated skin. Blend

Younique Beachfront Self-Tanning Body Lotion

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*Combines moisturizing and gradual tanning in one easy step
*Infused with emollient Shea Butter, a superb moisturizer and rich source of antioxidants

*Vegan friendly and not tested on animals

*Directions: using the Beachfront Body Applicator, apply product evenly onto clean, exfoliated skin, blending in circular motions. Let dry. If using your hands to blend, wash after use

Want More?

Coconut oil conditions the skin
• Green tea extract helps protect the skin
• Brown algae helps balance the skin and retain moisture
• Sodium Hyaluronate aids in boosting and maintaining the skin’s moisture level
• Vitamin E is an oil-soluble antioxidant that helps to protect skin
• Developed with a light fragrance, eliminating the signature self-tanner scent

Beachfront Body Bronzer

Instantly smooth on a bronzed, summery look with Beachfront Body Bronzer, a luxurious and nourishing lotion that both pampers and tints your skin. This bronzer looks like a tanner but acts like your favorite lotion, giving your skin the nourishing and protective 12803166_10100149689101688_5211842373457617619_ntreatment it needs. Special oils, extracts, vitamins, and antioxidants work to moisturize and condition your skin while also protecting from harmful elements. Your skin will look and feel radiant, golden, silky, and soft—and you’ll positively exude confidence.

Younique Beachfront Body Bronzer comes in three flattering,
confidence-promoting shades:
► Sunset, for fair skin
► Hermosa, for medium skin
► Malibu, for darker skin
• Masks the appearance of uneven skin tone and imperfections
• Contains a subtle shimmer that instantly creates the look of
sun-kissed skin
• Coconut oil, green tea extract, sugar seaweed, sodium hyaluronate,
and Vitamin E condition, protect, and nourish skin

Lip Bonbons Tinted Lip Balms

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Get ready to indulge in the ultimate beauty treat! From mouthwatering Red Velvet Cake to a refreshing Vanilla Milkshake, each of the Younique Lip Bonbons Tinted Lip Balms are a treat that will keep you coming back for more. Not only do they hydrate lips with nourishing oils and fruit extracts, but they also keep your lips looking brilliantly beautiful and supple! Much like a decadent dessert, Lip Bonbons Tinted Lip Balms are creamy and rich, thanks to carefully selected ingredients that melt precisely at body temperature.

 

Want to know more?

• Lightly tinted for a subtle, shiny hint of color

• Decadently formulated with Sunflower Seed, Jojoba, Prickly Pear, Coconut Oils and peach, bonbonpomegranate, and goji berry fruit extracts
• Lightly scented with a mild vanilla fragrance

• Luxurious sensorial application with an extra-creamy and smooth texture • Dermatologically tested and approved

• Younique Lip Bonbons Tinted Lip Balms are available in five dazzling colors that add a delicious pop and nourishing shine to any daytime or nighttime look:

► Chocolate Truffle—Coral, Red Velvet Cake—Berry, Cherry Cobbler—Red/Cherry, Raspberry Cheesecake—Pink, Vanilla Milkshake—Nude

Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner

Does your pursuit for the perfect cat eye constantly make you fashionably late? Get ready to effortlessly wing it with Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner—the new 12806214_10156548276715324_316848752294424517_nbeauty must-have that will give you gorgeously lined eyes that last all day. Whether you are a winged liner novice or an experienced cat eye connoisseur, Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner’s easy application will have your eyes looking bold and beautiful in minutes. With just a few strokes, the applicator leaves a rich matte finish without ever skipping, feathering, or running. Sleek and smooth, Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner’s ultra-fine tip delivers an intricate and dramatic calligraphy look. The no-smudge, water-resistant liquid eyeliner dries quickly for a clean result without any messy transfer. Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner’s modern formula will not only give your eyes a glamorous boost, but will become a beauty favorite in no time!

Need more info?

• Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner comes in five standout colors:

► Perfect—Black, Precarious—Blue, Proper—Brown, Prosperous—Green, Powerful—Grey

• Younique Moodstruck Precision Liquid Eyeliner is easily removed with eye makeup remover (try Younique’s Shine Eye Makeup Remover Cloths with sunflower and olive oils, jojoba, vitamin E and rosemary)

• Water-resistant and matte in color

• Ophthalmologically tested and approved

• Dermatologically tested and approved

And last, but not least, the tools:

I am SO excited for these new products to be launched, and I cannot wait to submit my order tomorrow morning and try out these as soon as possible! I am taking pre-orders tonight, so if you’re local and want to get in on my bulk order please get in touch with me ASAP.

xoxo

Jess

SO WHO WANTS FREE MAKEUP-

2 Ways to Earn FREE Makeup

Do you want to have high quality makeup, but struggle to come up with the necessary funds to afford it? Well, then this video contains a few options that you should consider!

Recap:

1) Mystery Hostess Party – This option is pretty straightforward. I host a party, and everyone that makes a purchase gets their name put in a draw. When the party reaches qualification status at the close of the event, I draw a name at random from those who purchased. Winner takes home the half price credits and whatever Y-Cash (Younique credit) that was accumulated from the party to be used toward future purchases! You need to be in my private VIP Younique Customer group on Facebook for this one ladies.

2) Hosting a Party – This option always holds the possibility of getting half price credits and Y-cash, but right now I am doing a special of my own. Book a party with me, pick one of the items I have in stock as a prize, and then when your party closes and has reached qualification status… I will give you the prize you picked out FOR FREE.

Sound good?

Contact me to get your party booked at jessica@fitnessbeautytravel.com

xoxo

Jess

Love Makeup and Travel? This is for YOU

NOW ACCEPTING APPLICATIONS!

Anybody that knows me well knows that I have been bitten by the travel bug. I had the opportunity to go backpacking through Europe the summer after I got my B.A. degree, and ever since, it is always on my mind. I seem to always be thinking forward to the next opportunity that I will have to travel even before I finish whatever trip I happen to be taking at the time! I am so thankful that I have a business that is taking me to experience totally different and novel places. As a girl that grew up in a super small town in Eastern Canada, I didn’t really experience much of the world until a few years ago.

I can now say that I have been to Spain, France, and the UK. Technically speaking I’ve been to Germany and Ireland too, but I don’t count airports as being travel experiences lol. Within the US, I can now say that I have been to Chicago and California. Chicago was an amazing trip with a bunch of awesome ladies. I got to meet people from all over the world with a common interest: makeup and this awesome company we call Younique. It was so empowering to be around so many influential people, and I learned a lot from some of the top earning leaders within the company.

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Beyond that, I also got to have a great time at the welcome party and the gala dinner. I took an extra day beyond convention because I wanted to explore the city, so I even have some great memories from just hopping on and off tour buses around the city to explore the different landmarks. I was the only one brave enough of my group of friends to go out on the sky deck, and though I was a little scared the floor would fall out underneath me, I managed to snap a few pictures before inching my wobbling legs closer to the main floor.

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One of the women I met in Chicago actually happens to live in Missouri, so I am really excited to have an opportunity to truly explore the best parts of St. Louis while I am down there for the convention. I have already secured my ticket to convention, so I wanted to write to the ladies of the world that love makeup and travel and inform you of the early bird registration deadline. The deadline to purchase your convention ticket at the early bird price point was originally January 15th, 2016 – it has since been extended to February 15th! If you are a current presenter and you haven’t gotten your ticket, I strongly urge you to find the time and money to make it happen this year. You definitely won’t regret it!

If you are reading this as a fellow beauty and cosmetics-lover, and you also have a strong desire to travel, I would like to invite you to chat with me about this amazing opportunity. Younique has given me the confidence and the ability to explore new regions of the world, and I would love to have new positive people to come on this journey with me.

xoxo

Jess

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#1 Reason Why I Love What I do!

I was recently approached by a lady to order some products through me for Younique. She was struggling to place her order through paypal, and asked me to submit the order for her. I helped her get the order situated, and then after not speaking for a few days, I received a panicked message asking me if our products were tested on animals.

This was my response:

“Nope! Haha that is one of many reasons I love Younique. A lot of our product are gluten free as well, while some are fully natural. Mineral makeup is so much healthier for your skin. If you’re concerned about ingredients, you will find a list of all ingredients on our website. If you click on any product you’ll find an option to click so that you know exactly what is in what you are using.”
One of the amazing things about Younique is that they try to use the best possible ingredients in the products so that we can provide top-notch quality to our customers. You may not know this, but the UK actually has banned a significantly larger number of harmful chemicals and ingredients from being used in their cosmetics. Younique actually meets the UK standard of cosmetics, and has grown to be quite successful in the UK market! Additionally, they do not try to hide anything when it comes to what is in the products. Every single product on our website has a spot where you can select “ingredients” to learn about what was used in any given product!
The response that I got back after sending her this message was so positive, that I just had to share it with all of you!
“Oh wow!!! I am loving this more and more!! I have only been using the liquid mineral foundation for a week or two and my skin is already looking better with far less breakouts and I have had bad hormonal acne since I had my daughter, I see a big difference, I can’t wait for the concealer, powder and primer to come in, !!! As soon as the liquid mineral foundation is back in stock please let me know and I’ll order it right away I’m so scared to run out of it now. It’s funny you mention gluten-free I just started a gluten-free diet about a month ago. I’m so happy there’s no testing on animals that’s kind of a dealbreaker for me.”
This is the coolest thing ever!! I am so happy to receive positive feedback from my customers regarding products that they have been using and enjoying. If you have experiences with our products that you would like to share, feel free to post them in the comments! I would love to hear how others are enjoying our products as well.
If you have any questions concerning our products or you need help identifying the best products or shades for you prior to submitting an order, you are more than welcome to reach out to me at jessica@fitnessbeautytravel.com !
xoxo
Jess

2016 Younique Incentive Trip Announcement!

EEK! So I found out where Younique will be sending us on our incentive trip in October of 2016 earlier today while I was at work. ALL day I was just itching to get home so that I could hop on my laptop and write about this amazing incentive!!

Are you ready for this ladies?

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Younique is sending us to Cozumel, Mexico on a FOUR-NIGHT CRUISE taking off from Miami with stops in Key West and Cozumel. That’s not all though. Last year the presenters needed to hit a second level of incentive points in order to be able to bring a guest with them on the cruise. This year – the BASIC incentive point standard will allow you AND a guest to go on a cruise paid for by Younique!!! This makes it THAT much more attainable for you to earn this trip for you and your significant other, spouse, best friend, whatever the case may be!

Who’s ready to get registered with me as a Younique Presenter NOW?

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Now you should also know that even if you happen to fall a little short of collecting enough points for this cruise, there are STILL other fabulous prizes to choose from! You can earn up to $100 US in Y-Cash to spend on your own products and a phenomenal Younique-branded makeup trunk (which I have had my eye on for ages). The bonus prize for those who work extra extra hard and earn points beyond the cruise will earn themselves $150 US credit to be used on-board the cruise ship!

Now I know some of you are probably thinking you could never start now and qualify for the cruise, but that is NOT true. This trip could be earned by anyone regardless of their status, but it is going to take effort. You can earn points through sales, for advancing in status or maintaining your current status, having downline members maintain or advance in status, AND you can even earn 1000 points just for registering to go to convention this summer in St. Louis!! I went to Chicago last summer and it was so empowering and inspiring – definitely a must for all presenters that are serious about their business.

So what happens if you do earn the cruise? Well, you will get to go on a 4-day cruise with our amazing founders, Derek and Melanie, along with hundreds of fellow Younique sisters. Please note that you are responsible for getting yourself to the port in Miami where the cruise takes off. The cruise is covered by Younique, but the airfare will be up to you.

I don’t know about you, but I am FREAKING OUT over here. So excited to get my butt on that cruise and finally explore a bit of Mexico. I would LOVE for you to be on that cruise with me, so the question is, are you going to work for this with me?

Click here to register if you are prepared and willing to work for this with me!

xoxo

Jess

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7 Quick Ways to Earn Points to win FREE Makeup!

I decided that I will be running a Mystery Hostess party in my Private VIP Group on Facebook. The way this works is I will keep the party open throughout the full 10 days and anybody who makes a purchase from the Mystery Hostess Party link will gain entries into the draw to win the hostess rewards from the party when it qualifies!

Check out the image below to learn the 7 ways in which you can earn points:

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As you can see, there are more ways to win than simply placing an order! You can also earn yourself more entries in other methods. It is not featured in this image, but I plan to doll out an additional 5 points for every 10$ spent beyond 40$! There are lots of ways to win, so if you want a shot at earning free makeup from me, you’re going to have to visit my VIP Group and request to join. OR, if you place an order from me through the Mystery Party link, I will send you an invitation to the group via email to let you know you’ve been entered into the draw! This is a great way to get some of the makeup you’ve had your eyes on AND potentially earn yourself the rewards.

I will be posting all kinds of photos and videos to help you learn about Younique cosmetics all this week, so make sure that you’ve requested to join us so that you can participate!

Who is it gonna be? I hope you’re entered in the draw!

xoxo

Jess

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3 Reasons to get involved with Younique this Month

I have had a multitude of conversations with fabulous ladies that have expressed interest in joining the Younique family in the time that I have been with the company. I have a LOT of on-the-fencers in our Information group on Facebook, so I wanted to explain a few reasons why this month right here (January 2016) is the PERFECT time for you to be getting involved with Younique. Maybe you’re one of the people I’ve spoken to in the past, or maybe you’re totally new to the idea. Regardless, this is some information that you need to have in your back pocket to be able to make that decision that could potentially change your life.

Back to the topic of on-the-fencers. It honestly kills me to see ladies rocking makeup looks in their selfies, getting tons of likes and comments from their friends, and not making money in the process. The cycle is pretty similar in a lot of these cases, so I am going to lay it out for you and I want you to be honest with yourself as to whether or not this is YOU:

Scenario 1: The initial conversation about the company and what it is like as a presenter occurs. There is interest, but you want time to think about it. You then fall off the face of the earth. I reach out a few more times, and you ignore my messages but continue to watch my posts. Sound familiar? If so, STOP! Stop watching me grow and build my business on the sidelines, and just muster up the courage to take that leap and do it with me. You’re about to learn why it is in your best interest to do it NOW.

Scenario 2: This one begins in the same way, only it ends with you saying that you will sign up as SOON as you get paid. You may even provide an exact date for when you plan to join. That day comes and goes, and you don’t take that leap. I reach out a few more times and get told the exact same thing with new dates. Those dates come and go too. Ironically, I will see photos of a new tattoo, people partying every weekend, people throwing their money away on this or that. I get it, people like to have tattoos, nice things, to party and let loose, etc. However, wouldn’t it be so much better if you had MORE money to buy and do all of those things? Instead of buying those non-essential things you could be setting aside that money to invest in yourself and a business that can then make you the money you need to invest in the things that you WANT for years to come!

Okay, so now it is time to get down to the nitty-gritty. Why is it so crucial to get involved this month, and what sets it apart from all of the other months of the year?

3 Reasons to get Involved with Younique this Month:

People are getting back on track after the holidays: December can be a really rough month for sales because people are spending all of their money on Christmas gifts and holiday necessities. January is hit or miss because some people have Christmas money they want to spend on makeup, but most people have spent all of their money on holiday stuff in December that it takes them most of January to get caught up. February is when sales can go back up for us! When you get started this month, it allows you to work on setting yourself up for an awesome month in a7f0809f7eff5bbd641fdc5d93e6529bFebruary. Just think – what to women like? A LOT of women like makeup. What holiday is coming up in February? VALENTINE’S DAY!! This is a HUGE opportunity for us to network and make connections with the men in our lives that have to consider gifts for their significant other. Plus, the ladies in our lives may want to splurge on themselves to look great for date night. Since the holiday is just 2 weeks into the month, it is important to make those connections in advance so that the orders arrive in time for the holiday!

We launch in a new market February 1st (FRANCE): Yes, you read that correctly. Younique launches in France next month!! This is honestly SO exciting for me, because for once I actually have a slight advantage in a launch haha! I speak french, so this will allow me to communicate effectively with people in France about the opportunity and be genuine. If you speak french and you love makeup, you NEED to be getting on board prior to this launch. Even if you don’t speak french, it is still a huge opportunity because a lot of french-speaking people can understand English. It is soooo important to establish yourself within the company prior to the launch so that you can work on making those connections 12345788_1716540425242166_1683075681_nwith potential customers and potential Younique presenters in France. You may not know this, but France is actually a huge fashion, style, and cosmetics industry. This means that there will be a HUGE amount of people over there that will be dying to join your team and become a part of this awesome company, or even just to try out the products. If you make connections with these people in advance, you will set yourself up for a killer month. Previous launches like this have allowed presenters the opportunity to rank advance in a single day, sometimes multiple times, simply from establishing connections with people prior to that launch. As I am sure you know, rank advancements mean MORE MONEY.

Our trip incentive points restart in February: So you may or may not know this, but every year Younique offers incentives for the presenters. You have opportunities all throughout the year to rack up points that can later be redeemed for some awesome rewards. Now you can choose to use them on the smaller prizes, OR you can work your A$$ off and work to 1917146_10153797161498744_583202665854512751_ngenerate enough points to earn yourself a spot on the cruise ship. I want to be on that cruise next year, and I am more than willing to work with you to help you earn your ticket so that you can be there right alongside me! If you get started in the month of January it allows you to get yourself trained up, fired up, and ready to hit the ground running February 1st. This way you are not missing any opportunities to collect points, and you don’t end up joining several months down the road and being behind on point collection.

So there you have it. 3 pretty freakin’ powerful reasons why it is in your best interest to get OFF of the fence and get involved with Younique RIGHT NOW. If you’ve been watching posts of Younique presenters and thinking about joining the company, stop thinking and just dive in. Things that are right and that important potentially life-changing decisions are always scary – but you rarely regret having the courage to do it once you do. Seriously though, in this case you really have NOTHING to lose. You will be getting a presenter’s kit full of awesome makeup at HUGE savings, so the worst case scenario here is that you don’t sell anything and you just end up with a kit full of epic makeup to use and love. There are no penalties or fees for quitting or failing to sell!

If you are willing to learn how to succeed in this industry I have no doubt in my mind that you WILL succeed. Why? Because I am going to help you do it. My team has been growing and improving with every passing month. I just had another lady join me this week, and already she has sold over $100 in product. I had a lady join me last month and she ALREADY got her first promotion and is well on her way to hit fast start and get a ton of Younique cash to redeem on her own purchases! You are never alone on our team. I recently invested quite a bit of money into a professional business development training program, and I fully intend to share the knowledge that I gain through that program with the ladies on my team to help them grow as well. Additionally, I have compiled notes from many webinars, podcasts, etc that I have utilized to help me learn the art of network marketing. Those are all available to the ladies on my team through my Team Training Resources section of the site. I want YOU to be successful too, not just me. We are a team, after all.

If you are ready to conquer your fear and dive in, I would LOVE for you to join my team and be a part of this amazing Younique family.

Thanks for reading ladies!

xoxo

Jess

 

My Naked Truth

Yesterday I entered a new chapter in my life. Yesterday was the day that I devoted myself fully to my goals, and turned ideas into action steps to help me achieve those goals. One of these action steps came in the form of The Naked Leader, a coaching program with Janelle Fraser. One of the very first things that I learned, and something that is said to be the foundation for all leaders, is that you have to be 100% unapologetically yourself.

“Being a naked leader is defined as someone who purposefully chooses to lead and share a message wilst showing up fully as their true self.”  – Janelle Fraser

This concept essentially refers to being open, honest, and vulnerable with your followers. Nobody is perfect, but when you’re running a business, you often feel like you have to portray perfection all of the time to be successful. The concept of the Naked Leader totally challenges that habit to hide the messier side of your life. Instead, it encourages you to OWN the things from your past, present, and future that maybe are not as “polished” as you would like them to be. In honor of this challenge, I wanted to reveal the naked truth that is who I am, and how I got here.

This is most likely about to be a long one, so turn back now unless you want to be in it for the long haul!  

Note that any names used will be changed..

We all struggle a bit through adolescence. That goofy, awkward, roller-coaster of emotions time of your life where you are learning and growing as a human being. I had a pretty normal childhood full of ups and downs, and lessons learned. It was at the age of 15 when my life kind of got spun around 360 degrees and flipped upside down.

Age 14 was a tough year for me, because the boyfriend that I was madly in love with “allegedly” cheated on me with another girl. You tend to feel those emotions so powerfully when you are young, so it crushed me. We spent the summer broken up, but things picked back up when we got back to school the following September. That was when I started to change. Prior to that incident, I was pretty much a goody-two-shoes. I didn’t drink, smoke, do drugs, or even swear. When I allowed myself to go back to my ex, I started changing all of those things about myself gradually to make the Love-quotes-Dont-change-to-make-someonerelationship work. (If you are doing this – STOP NOW while you have the chance… No relationship worth having should EVER require you replacing good qualities and habits about yourself with bad ones) I wish someone had shared that advice with me because I started drinking, I smoked marijuana, I skipped class, the whole nine yards. It was not a healthy relationship, and the feelings that I felt for him certainly were not reciprocated in the same manner. Instead of being uplifted, I was constantly torn down and made to feel broken and worthless. He never physically laid a hand on me, but sometimes chronic manipulation, lying, and emotional abuse can be just as rough on a person. Eventually the school year ended, and he walked out of my life. The result was a risk-taking, newly single 15 year old ready to finally let loose and have some fun during the summer.

My dad has been a paramedic since I was a little girl, and I remember growing up he would always tell me stories about his work. Specifically stories about the reserve, no doubt trying to warn me of the dangers he had seen and keep me away from it all. As a father, he tried to warn me about drinking and partying in general. I had always heeded his warnings, until that summer. My best friend at the time had moved into a home on the reserve with her father and his girlfriend, and she had told me about a party her friends were having. We plotted a way for me and my step-sister to be able to go to the party without raising suspicion among our parents. My sister’s mom was told she was staying the night at my house, while my mom was told that we were both staying the night at Ashley’s house. Of course both of our mothers were told that her parents would be around for supervision. It was a pretty classic scenario, so I am sure that you have already guessed by this point that there were no parents present that weekend. Our plan worked perfectly, and we went off to Ashley’s house to get ready for the party. The first several hours were actually really fun, and I started to think that my dad had been wrong. Everyone had been really nice and accepting, for the most part.

My sister ended up drinking a little too much that night, to a point where she actually made me chase her out into a field when it came time to get her to go back to the house and call it a night. Whenever a friend gets too drunk, I think it is almost a natural instinct for us to cut back and take care of them instead of getting inebriated ourselves. That is what I chose to do that night. When I finally rounded her up, I found Ashley and her cousin and prepared to go back to the house. Ashley had a crush on one of the guys from the party, so she brought him and his friend back to the house to continue hanging out. Everything was fine at first, but once people started going to bed, everything changed. My sister had passed out on the bed, I was on the bed beside her, and the friend of Ashley’s date was beside me. When the other three left the room, it was just him and I left awake. He was drunk, so naturally when left alone with a girl, he made his move. At first I didn’t mind, we fooled around around for a bit because it felt nice to be kissed again. It didn’t take long for that to change though, and the requests for more started. It basically began by being told to take off my pants, and I kept insisting that I wouldn’t. I said my sister was right beside us and would wake up as an excuse. He tried to get me to go in another room, but I refused to do that too. Eventually it got more insistent, and he said if I didn’t take my pants off, he would. I continued to refuse, because I had no intentions of sleeping with anyone that night. He followed through with his statement though, and as it started, I laid on the bed motionless, crying, mumbling “no” over and over again, and just waited until it was over. When he was finished, he pretty much just got up from the bed, got dressed, and left the room without saying a word.

I know exactly what you’re probably thinking, because it was a running inner monologue of mine for a long time. Why didn’t you fight him off? Why didn’t you scream for help? Why didn’t you make more of an effort to stop this from happening? My honest to god answer is this – I don’t know. I had so many things running through my head that night. The biggest thought process of all was my father’s stories about the reserve, what he had seen, what the men can be like, the abuse, the murders and assaults, and more.  I’ve grown up now, and I recognize fully that they are not all like that, but at the time I just kept thinking about those stories and how I1 didn’t want to be one of the girls picked up in an ambulance beaten to a bloody pulp. I was afraid of what might happen if I did resist and fight. I didn’t think this guy was abusive, but then again, I was 15 and I had literally just met him that night. I wasn’t exactly in a good position to make that kind of judgment call. I had my sister to think about too, who was lying beside us totally dead to the world from drinking too much, and I didn’t want her to get hurt too. So I made a choice. I made a choice to just stay still and wait. Maybe everything would have been fine had I made more of an effort, or maybe I would have been driven to the hospital in an ambulance and not my mother’s car. That is something that I will never know.

I told my sister about what happened the next day, and we went back to my house. I struggled with the decision as to whether or not I should tell anyone. I really didn’t want to tell anyone else because I felt responsible for what happened to me. I didn’t feel like I could call it rape, because I had been fooling around with him first. I felt like I had brought it on myself, and that it was my fault for getting his hopes up in that way and expecting him not to follow through. By some stroke of what I thought at the time to be sheer luck, my uncle stopped by the house while my mom was out. I thought, “if I just tell him what happened, I can ask him to keep my secret.” It was pretty freakin’ naive, but at the time I was desperate, and he was my only hope to get the morning after pill. I was terrified to death of pregnancy and STD’s. As soon as my mom came home, my uncle left the house and met her on the walkway. The look on her face as she walked through the door with tears running down her cheeks still breaks my heart today.

What came next was a visit to the hospital, where my mom told my dad, and my dad told my grandparents, and I ended up in a hospital room with most of my immediate family. It was awkward, uncomfortable, and humiliating. I hated every second of it. I had a hard time filing the report with the police because I had to admit to my family that I had been fooling around with him first. I blamed myself, so I expected them to do the same. They didn’t. Next I was poked and prodded by the nurses as they performed a rape kit, extracted about 10 vials of blood for testing, and shot a massive needle into my butt that hurt like hell and burned so badly that it made me scream loud enough that my family could hear me in the hallway. The whole experience was just painful in more ways than one for my entire family. Beyond that, I was given a huge bag full of medications that I needed to take to help reduce my risk for contracting HIV. Testing had to be done in another 6 months to be fully sure, so I had to ensure several months of the unknown and worrying as well.

When I went back home, everything seemed different. My parents were on edge and understandably overprotective, so it made it difficult for me to interact with my friends. It really didn’t help matters that my closest friends at the time were male, and my parents viewed all guys in my life as the devil. Ashley was no longer my friend because my mom had told her parents about what had happened, and it had gotten her into trouble. Along 14424672with her and her entire family, a lot of people thought that I had made the whole thing up. They thought that my behavior was not that of a person who had just been raped, because if I had really been through that, I wouldn’t be comfortable hanging out with my guy friends. I knew them and trusted I them, so I was not scared of them. They knew about what happened, and they supported me through it when my girl friends laid blame, labelled me as a lying slut, and abandoned me. Ashley and I made up years later, and she understood after I explained all that I had been subjected to after that night. It is not something that a girl takes lightly. I encourage you to think about that next time you wonder whether or not to believe a rape report.

A week after the party, we heard noise coming from our back yard. A friend of my mothers was here, so we sent him out to check it out. It was a group of natives, and they were vandalizing a vehicle in our back yard. In all of the time that we had lived in this house prior to that summer, and all the time spent in that home after that single incident, we have lived there without anything like that happening again. I will never know for sure, but at the time, I took it as a threat and a warning. It scared me to death. I decided not to pursue charges partly out of fear, but also because I still believed that I was to blame. Regardless, I couldn’t stand the thought of going back to school and having to face him, all of the other natives, and his many friends who would most likely believe him over me. I thought for sure that I would end up getting beaten up at school, and I refused to go back. My mom sent a letter to the other high school in our little town, and luckily they accepted me as a transfer student against their regulations due to the circumstances.

The very first week at my new school, I made friends with the kind of kids that parents don’t approve of… for obvious reasons. The kind that do drugs, skip school, and party. I remember the very first night that I met them, and it was at our local carnival that takes place at the end of every summer vacation. I had been offered drugs that afternoon and had turned it down, but I later saw a group of people associated with the guy who had sexually assaulted me earlier that summer. I panicked, and I started to lose my mind a little bit. I sent my sister to investigate and verify that he wasn’t there, and I ended up agreeing to take my very first ecstasy pill to calm my nerves and try to have a good night. From that point forward I spent about 6 months of grade 11 high on weed or ecstasy, drunk, or a combination of both. It made me feel better, or at least I thought it did for a while. All it really did was make me forget, and give me a false sense of happiness for several hours until the crash. My solution to that was to just do it again the next day to keep it going. At one point down the line, I was offered some acid. I accepted, and ended up taking 4 hits of acid in one night. I am pretty sure my eyes remained open and unblinking for over 10 hours by the pain I felt the following day. I absolutely loved being on acid, even more than I enjoyed ecstasy, so I knew that I could never touch it again or I would become hooked to that too. It wasn’t too long after that night that the nightmares began. I had not had a bad trip while on acid, but apparently that doesn’t matter. Acid can leave its mark on you long after the initial dose. For about a month straight, I had to sleep with the light on because I would wake up petrified from the nightmares of what seemed to be of a bad acid trip. I would be hanging upside down from the ceiling unable to move. I would be seemingly glued to place on the bed as ghost-like forms lunged at my face. Basically all of the crazy stuff that a young person fears during the night when the lights are off is exactly what would appear in my head while I slept. It was extremely vivid.

This is another turning point in my life. I started to really think about where I was and what I was doing to myself. I started wondering, what if this is God sending me a message and telling me that I need to stop doing drugs. Please note that I do not identify myself with any particular religion, so I am not trying to preach to you about God. Regardless of my beliefs or non-beliefs, I thought of these nightmares as being a bad omen. I decided that the drugs needed to come to a stop.

Unfortunately for me, I did not decide to stop drinking, and I continued to hang out with the same crowd of people. One night I was at a party drinking, and I had consumed a large cooler (basically a cooler the size of a wine bottle) and 1 mixed drink with rum. By this point, I had obviously become accustomed to drinking alcohol, and I had built up quite a tolerance for the stuff. Those coolers were basically juice for me, and for someone who typically just did shots and drank hard stuff from the bottle, 1 mixed drink didn’t do much damage either. I remember sitting on the couch having a conversation with my cousins boyfriend, feeling fine and having a great time. I finished up that drink, and he offered to get me another. He came back with my drink and we continued to talk as I drank it. I don’t really know if I ever finished that drink, because everything from that point on is pretty hazy despite it being so early in the evening. I remember him helping me to the bathroom, and holding my hair as I threw up. I vaguely remember him helping me to a bed in a bedroom, and then offering to get me water. Everything beyond him leaving the room is a mystery.

I was woken up really early in the morning by my friend saying that I needed to go home because I was in his bed. I groggily got up, got my things, and went out to the cab. I turned on my laptop when I got home to check Facebook, and I had a large amount of messages from my cousin. She was livid, and was accusing me of having slept with her boyfriend. I had no idea what she was talking about, but she said people from the party had told her. I sent a message to the friends of mine that had hosted the party and I asked him what had happened. He told me that it was true, and that the guy had been bragging about it. My cousin said one of the girls at the party told her I bragged about it too (but the source was a girl that didn’t like me to begin with, so I don’t know for sure if I did get up from the bed at some point through the night to talk to people or not). When I went to get undressed to put my pajamas on and go back to sleep, I found a large amount of dark blood on my underwear. I didn’t think that it was the right time for my period, and when I 11174887_10153782931693508_8908561499487718016_nfelt the soreness the next morning, I had to face facts. At that point, I knew it was true. This time I didn’t tell anyone, I just went to the clinic on my university campus to have tests run. The bleeding continued, and I was told that the guy that night must have been very rough because it had caused damage internally that was made evident from the discoloration of the blood. I blamed myself again, because I was the one that had made the choices that had ultimately led me to that moment. I didn’t realize it at the time, but it is very likely that I was drugged. I knew from the start that something about that night just didn’t make sense, but I hadn’t been able to put my finger on it until I learned in one of my psychology classes about the date rape drugs and their effects. Much like the last time that this kind of thing had happened, I still considered myself to be at fault, so this time I kept the whole thing to myself. I didn’t report it to the police or tell my family. I hadn’t gotten pregnant or contracted any STD’s, so I just dealt with the bleeding on my own and tried my best to act like it hadn’t happened.

It is kind of ironic actually. When I was assaulted the first time, it led me to the darkness. This time, it brought me out into the light, because it gave me the strength that I needed to finally put an end to my destructive behavior. I quit drinking cold-turkey, and I cut ties with most of my “friends”. I use quotation marks because for the most part, once I quit drinking and partying, they really didn’t seem to care about me or want to spend time with me anyway. I started focusing on my school work, and I turned the second half of grade 11 around to a point where I was getting mostly 80’s and 90’s. I was isolated though, and very damaged, so the depression sunk in. I started to supplement my feelings with food, and I would eat junk food constantly in an attempt to make myself feel better. I developed a very unhealthy relationship with food, and the result was rapid weight gain, which ultimately led to more depression, and more junk food consumption, and the cycle continued on and on and on. I pretty much spent that second half of grade 11, and my entire graduation year, isolated and alone.

I did very well in school that last year, and I did it without touching a drop of alcohol. I decided that I wanted to go to law school to become a prosecutor so that I could make a difference by putting away the bad guys. Since I spent my weekends alone, I developed an obsession with Criminal Minds reruns that played pretty much non-stop each weekend along with CSI. I bought the entire collection on Ebay, and binge watched the entire series. I decided that I wanted to become the Canadian version of a profiler, which, much to my surprise, actually does exist within the RCMP under the title “Criminal Investigative Analyst”. I spent grade 12 working towards getting into the school that I had chosen, and I did get in. From that point forward, I was focused entirely on getting what I wanted. I knocked all basic requirements out first year, and the next year was split equally between Criminology and Psychology. Third year was spent fulfilling requirements for the honours program and additional Criminology and Psychology requirements, and fourth year was spent finalizing all requirements needed for my double major and honours in Criminology. In the end, I made it out alive and graduated with honours in distinction. My studies in these subjects taught me a lot about myself, my circumstances, and society. Unfortunately, the world we live in appears to have made victim-blaming so commonplace that most women and girls victhat are victimized automatically begin the line of thinking that they must have done something to deserve it. Maybe they think their outfit was too revealing, or like me their earlier actions suggested consent. What I have learned is that it was NOT my fault. It was NOT okay for someone to continue once the word “no” had been uttered even once, let alone numerous times. It was NOT okay for someone to have rough sex with a person that had thrown up and then needed to be put into bed with a glass of water. It was NOT okay for people to put the blame on me. It was NOT okay for those guys to take what they wanted from me and leave me to pick up the pieces of my broken life. Most importantly, I learned that I would be okay. I always wanted to someday tell this story to the world in an attempt to hopefully help others going through similar circumstances to learn these important facts for themselves, and I just now mustered the courage.

Toward the end of my third year of my degree I made a life-changing decision. I decided that I was going to take my life back, and that I was not going to allow my life to be dictated by my past. I decided that I refused to spend my grad year of university the way that I had spent my grad year of high school. I was miserable, alone, and just totally defeated back then. I set to work immediately after school ended that third year, and I began P90X. This Beachbody program helped me change my habits. I worked out 6 days a week for 6 full months with that program, and I ate clean through the duration of that period as well. When I finished that, I tried Turbo Fire, then Les Mills PUMP, and so on. By the time that I got back into school for my grad year, I was feeling so much better about myself as a person. I was happier, I was getting my confidence back, and I was pushing myself to talk to people and make friends. I did go out to grad events that year, and I had fun and made memories this time. All of this helped me come to the realization that my desire to be a prosecutor or in the RCMP really wasn’t about the job itself. It was about getting revenge on the people that had hurt me by putting away other bad guys in their place. To take those kinds of positions would have been focusing on a life of negativity. I would have been constantly surrounded by terrible acts of abuse, and I would have to live with that burden on top of that which I already bear. When I came to this realization, I decided that I was better off choosing a different path.

I decided to skip grad school. I became a Beachbody Coach to help motivate and encourage others to achieve results like I had. I later joined Younique because I fell in love with their makeup. I’ve since been on a backpacking trip where I explored Barcelona, Paris, and London. I’ve been to Chicago, Vegas, and California, and I have trips planned to Nashville and St. Louis next summer. I have had so much positivity come into my life since making the decision to let go of my past, and I just have to keep reminding myself of this every time that I slide backwards.

Now you may be curious about the whole cold-turkey alcohol situation. I quit halfway through grade 11, and I did not touch alcohol until a few months into my first year of university. The impact that it has had on my behavior is huge though. I am very conscious of what I am drinking and how much I am drinking while I am out. If I am out with people I am not 100% sure I can trust, I make sure to stay sober enough to handle myself should a tough situation come about (it helps now that I have Les Mills COMBAT under my belt lol). I NEVER allow anyone but a bartender or daterapesignificant other to provide me with a drink while out. I tend to just totally ignore all men while at a bar, unless I went there with them or I know them already. I stick to the buddy system and always go out drinking with a friend, or don’t go at all. I am sure there are more weird little quirks, but ladies, regardless of whether or not you’ve been assaulted, you should all be doing these things to protect yourself. We shouldn’t have to – but this is the world that we live in, so we need to take precautions while we work and fight for change.

The impact that this has had on my relationships has been pretty powerful as well. Men tend to not be a fan of my perspective, so I guess in a way it is a good thing, because it weeds out the unworthy. I will not sleep with people until we are in a committed relationship, or have at least been dating for a while. The point is this: I’ve gotten to know them, I have come to trust them, and I can see the potential for a future with them. I once had a guy respond to this rule with “you don’t buy a car without test driving it first”, but in my case, yes you do. Needless to say, this guy is no longer a part of my world. Our happiness is not defined by having a man in our life. I have come to learn that if they can’t handle me needing time and space to get to know them and trust them before getting intimate in that way, then they don’t deserve to be in my life in the first place. I would rather be single, working on my own personal development, growing my businesses, and creating a life of happiness for myself than be in an unhealthy relationship that is going nowhere.

I am human. I am flawed. I am far from perfect. I have made terrible decisions that have had very bad consequences, and I know that I will make more bad choices throughout my lifetime. I can’t say that I regret any of the choices that I have made in my past, because it has led me to who I am in the present. Who I am is a good person that has had a few hurdles thrown in her path. I am also a person that deserves to be happy, and I am ready to do whatever it takes to create that for myself, no matter how many hurdles I have to knock over to get there.  No more hiding. No more keeping secrets. It is time to lay it all out there so that I can finally move past this and get started on my future.

If you are struggling with being a victim of sexual assault, I strongly encourage you to talk to someone. Anyone. You NEED to get this off your chest. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone in your life, please write to me. Use the contact page here on my blog, and reach out to me. I promise that I will talk to you, and do my best to help you through this. If you are struggling with a drug problem, regardless of the type, and regardless of how far along you are, I encourage you to STOP if you can. If you are too far along and you physically can’t do it yourself, I encourage you to do the same. Reach out to someone for help, even if that someone is me. If you are struggling with depression due to body issues or anything else, I encourage you to get help as well. Again, reach out to me if necessary. You can’t do this on your own. I had a lot of help along the way from my loving and supportive family, and I couldn’t have gotten to where I am today without them in my life. You need someone to be in your corner, and if you don’t have anyone else, please let me be in your corner to help you get through this.

One of the reasons why I am SO passionate about Younique is because of what they stand for and what they support. Our mission statement is to Uplift. Empower. Validate. I just love that. Our goal is to be women supporting other women, making them feel amazing and beautiful, and 15 - 1most of all, making them feel like they are worth it. YOU are worth it. Younique has created a foundation to support survivors of sexual abuse, and it is a very powerful and empowering initiative that just fills my heart with that much more love for this company. As I mentioned before, I had the privilege of attending the 2015 Younique Convention in Chicago, IL. Prior to our convention, Younique challenged everyone to submit a video lip syncing to the super-powerful Fight Song by Rachel Platten. A select few of these videos were clipped and made into a video that was shown at convention. On top of everything else, this was beautiful and it certainly brought tears to my eyes. Check it out:

 You are not alone, and you will get through this.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you so much for reading. If my story helps even just one person, it will be worth it. Please know that this is not a cry for attention, nor is it an attempt to point fingers at the two men. All of this is behind me now, and I simply want anyone else struggling with these issues to see that you CAN turn things around.

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xoxo

Jess

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Younique 2016 incentive reveal!

Today is kind of a really cool day! Younique is announcing a special incentive for presenters in January, and word on the street is that they might be announcing this year’s incentive trip!

My direct upline with Younique actually won this incentive trip this past year and got to go to Jamaica with her husband on a cruise paid for by Younique! How cool is THAT?! I plan to win that cruise ticket this year, and I would love for you to be there with me.

If you like makeup, I think you should at least consider becoming a presenter yourself! You’ll earn money on all of your purchases, have the opportunity to get all of your makeup for free and half price, and – earn cool stuff like cruises! 

Even if you never sell a thing, you’ll get your own products at a discount!

Think about it ladies!

Not quite fully informed on the opportunity? I’ve written posts to help you learn about the Younique Opportunity, as well as our team,  Team Empowerment. Know that with us you are never alone. You will have the support you need to thrive in this company, and I even have special training resources available only for those on my team!

Ready to get started on this new adventure?

xoxo

Jess